“If you focus on the unknown, you create possibility.” -Dr. Joe Dispenza
It’s amazing how a single comment can ignite an idea or vision we may never have discovered on our own. Sometimes, it only takes a few words from someone else to completely alter the course of our lives.
In 2008, my life was packed to the brim. I worked as an EMT at concerts and in the ER, juggled a full schedule of massage clients, and babysat whenever I had a spare moment. Despite this hectic routine, I felt a deep calling to foster a child in San Diego. I signed up for the necessary classes and was on the verge of welcoming a child into my life.
Around that same time, an unexpected opportunity appeared. I took on a set medic job and was introduced to the possibility of becoming a stuntwoman.
Suddenly, I was standing at a crossroads, torn between two vastly different paths. One path was familiar: staying in San Diego, continuing my work as an EMT, living in the same apartment, and taking on the fulfilling but predictable life of fostering a child. The other path was wild, exhilarating, and completely unknown—a leap into the world of Hollywood stunts, where I could work on movies and TV shows and push the boundaries of what I believed was possible.
Looking back now, I can’t believe I felt torn at all. But in the moment, it was a struggle. Choosing the unknown felt terrifying, and staying in the comfort of my familiar life seemed safer.
One day, while I was hanging out with my friend Craig in Encinitas, California, we had a conversation that changed everything. We’d just finished lunch and stopped for gas. Sitting in the car at a Shell station, I poured my heart out about the decision I was grappling with. Craig listened patiently, letting me process aloud, but to him, the answer seemed obvious.
And then he said it—the one thing that shifted my perspective entirely:
“You have to go somewhere to get somewhere.”
In that moment, everything clicked. If I wanted to do something extraordinary, I had to leave the safety of the familiar. I had to step into the unknown, where possibility lives.
Not long after, I packed up my apartment in Encinitas and moved to North Hollywood, a place that, growing up, we didn’t even drive through because it had a reputation for being rough. But by the time I arrived, North Hollywood was transforming. It had become a hub for the entertainment industry, filled with dance studios, small theaters, and training facilities for martial arts and stunts.
For me, it became home—a place where I spent 12-hour days, training relentlessly to master stunt skills and push my limits. I was new all over again, but that wasn’t unfamiliar. After attending eight different schools as a kid, I’d grown used to starting fresh and finding my way.
This time, though, the people I was surrounded by were different. Stunt performers are a rare breed: black sheep, dreamers, and risk-takers who thrive on defying expectations and doing things what felt true to who they are. We were united by a shared passion for doing what most people see as impossible.
Fast forward 14 years, and I’ve had the privilege of working on some of Hollywood’s biggest movies, meeting childhood heroes, and helping others break into the stunt world. My career has been a dream come true, all because of one simple truth Craig shared with me that day:
“You have to go somewhere to get somewhere.”
If he hadn’t said those words, I might have stayed in my comfort zone, letting fear and familiarity dictate my life. Our minds are designed to protect us, to keep us safe and avoid risk. But our hearts? Our hearts know what’s possible. They crave adventure, growth, and the thrill of chasing a dream.
So, the next time you’re faced with a big decision, ask yourself this: Are you listening to your head or your heart? Your head wants you to stay where you are. Your heart knows where you’re meant to go.
Because if you don’t go somewhere, you’ll never get to where you’re meant to be.
“Today is the day to walk into the energy of your future self.” – Dr. Joe Dispenza
